Pithy Phrase

When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a woman, I put away childish things.

Monday, February 20, 2012

I'm Coming Out

So lately I've been talking more openly about my unorthodox opinions - in church, on Facebook, one on one, and on this blog.

And guess what?

Suddenly, everyone wants to be my friend.

Suddenly, everyone is coming up to me and thanking me for my comments.

Suddenly, everyone is telling me their secrets and problems.

It would appear that more people are on my side than are willing to publicly admit it.  And you know what?  I'm loving life.  Not only are my feelings being validated.  Not only am I feeling less like an isolated dissident in a sea of unquestioning drones.  I'm making more friends.  And, best of all, I feel that my capacity for charity is growing.

People who know me in real life know that charity is my number one gospel focus.  This was the case even before embarking upon my faith transition.  In my view, charity, or pure love, is the defining characteristic of God.  And I'm trying to be like God.  I believe that charity is the greatest of all spiritual gifts, and that it is impossible to cultivate it in yourself.  Perhaps God is giving me a little more of this ultimate gift as a comfort for all the bad feelings that have been coursing through my veins the last few months.  Or perhaps as I throw away my excessive zeal and orthodoxy, I am opening myself up to people I wouldn't have in the past.  Perhaps God is giving me this gift as a reward for continuing to stay my judgment.

All I really know is that everyone deserves love and respect, regardless of circumstances, dispositions, or choices.  Who am I to judge another when I walk imperfectly?

I realize now that nobody is perfect.  I understood that superficially before, but I know it now.  Everyone looks so perfect at church, but it's not real.  Everyone has skeletons in the closet.  Everyone needs help sometimes.  In the quiet heart is hidden sorrow that the eye can't see.

When I show kindness to all different sorts of people, I feel happy.  I feel humbled.  I feel closer to God.  I certainly did not expect to come closer to God by taking this unorthodox, potentially heretical route.  I did not anticipate that this would be my road to charity.  But it appears that this is my lot.  And if that's what it takes, that's what it takes.

I'm certainly never going back.


Lisa and Bennett said...

love and hugs. thanks for being you.

Liz Brown said...

I wish I had enough courage to "come out".

And I wish I had someone like you to talk to. Someone whom I knew would not judge me and try to convert me back, pray for me, call me, make me go to church, put me on the prayer roll at the temple, bemourn me, be disappointed in me, etc.

Just someone to love me and understand that its okay to doubt and its okay to believe something different.

Jenna said...

We have the same name and we are asking the exact same questions right now. I enjoyed your post above about how your RS lesson turned into a lesson about "the others". I despise that, and next time it happens I'm speaking up, and if it continues I'm walking out.

I'm excited to keep reading as we both make this journey. I recently wrote some posts that you might enjoy http://thatwifeblog.com/?s=awakening

If you also spend a lot of time puzzling through things, I'd be open to some email conversations back and forth.